Ever Been Cheated On?
| Good [+1]Toggle ReplyLink» cinderella_soul replied on Tue May 10, 2005 @ 9:53pm |
 Coolness: 56185 | Originally posted by DJ DIALECT...
sum guy came over to my house today and told my moms everything........ my dad's been cheating on her with sum ugly fat bitch, for the past, oooh about 3 years now.... mom had her suspisions about it for a while, but its confirmed now. i caught the 2 of them holding hands once randomly downtown, like 3 years ago, and for sum reason never said anything to my dad about it, never told anybody else about it, and i feel really horrible for not telling my mom right away about it.... i think i just knew something bad would happen if i told her... like now moms movin out n shit, and who knows what kinda stunt she'll pull :s anyways, i just had all this poured into my head so gotta tell sumone else........... poopy caca Thanks for sharing it. Love for venting. Don't beat yourself up over it after all we are all in a learning process. If faced with the same or similar situation would you have done things differently? I am sorta in a similar situation I saw my mom's b-friend kiss the neighboor on the lips. I told him I saw him.. he started to denye it bbut then stoppeed. I haven't told my mom-- I would want someone to tell me though, wouldn't you? It's tough though get involved--don't get ivolved.. ?! |
| Good [+1]Toggle ReplyLink» Dj_Psychokitty replied on Tue May 10, 2005 @ 9:56pm |
 Coolness: 48865 | yeah, just learn recently my mom has been cheating on my stepfather for a year now...she is repeating the same story than when she cheated on my father for my stepfather years ago..i wish i could tell him cause I know she will be leaving soon with everything but what holds me is my little sister. I dont want to be the one who will break the news and "tear" the family appart, even if my mom is entirely responsible..i just wish she could tell him now and leave with as less damage possible. |
| Good [+1]Toggle ReplyLink» Nie replied on Tue May 10, 2005 @ 10:29pm |
| Coolness: 50635 | Those are all though stories...woah. What do you do when you see your mom is being cheated on? Or she's cheating? Geez...
Psychokitty...maybe it's your mom you should try to talk to. She's your mom...but she's also a women. I don't know what else to say. You know Ze'ev, maybe your right. Maybe its not always black or white. Maybe it is more complicated and subtile. After all, we are talking about emotions which are complicated and subtile. So basically, learn to deal with your emotions and control them? Interesting but not easy. Anywho, I'm happy to see my thread didn't turn into idiocies. :) |
| Good [+1]Toggle ReplyLink» Choda_Bean replied on Tue May 10, 2005 @ 11:26pm |
 Coolness: 219955 | Originally posted by CINDERELLA SOUL...
I would want someone to tell me though, wouldn't you? It's tough though get involved--don't get ivolved.. ?! yea well, thats why i feel bad, i told her now what i saw, and what i thought was goin on... but the fact i never had a talk with pops, and never told my mom what was goin on......well, i should of, cuz if i just found sumthing like this out, i would be pissed that nobody told me... i mean, i know how it feels to find out your girlfriend was fucking around with sumone else, but imagine sumone you've been with for 39 years and raised 3 children with... cant be very fun. |
| Good [+1]Toggle ReplyLink» moondancer replied on Wed May 11, 2005 @ 12:04am |
 Coolness: 92250 | Originally posted by CINDERELLA SOUL...I AM SORTA IN A SIMILAR SITUATION I SAW MY MOM'S B-FRIEND KISS THE NEIGHBOOR ON THE LIPS. I TOLD HIM I SAW HIM.. HE STARTED TO DENYE IT BBUT THEN STOPPEED. I HAVEN'T TOLD MY MOM-- I WOULD WANT SOMEONE TO TELL ME THOUGH, WOULDN'T YOU? IT'S TOUGH THOUGH GET INVOLVED--DON'T GET IVOLVED.. ?!
Telling people things like that is hard, I`d have an especially hard time telling my mom for some reason. if she doesn`t already know I think you should tell her cause living in a lie sucks and might just make it more painful later. it`s eeerrr... awkward though. was there tongue? |
| Good [+1]Toggle ReplyLink» RedNatasha replied on Wed May 11, 2005 @ 12:28am |
| Coolness: 35380 | Originally posted by EL LEADER MAXIMO...
YOU DONT EXIST! oh sorry I forgot I don't exist |
| Good [+1]Toggle ReplyLink» El_Presidente replied on Wed May 11, 2005 @ 2:49am |
 Coolness: 299310 | well youre from ottawa. sorry! |
| Good [+1]Toggle ReplyLink» regimental911 replied on Wed May 11, 2005 @ 10:12am |
 Coolness: 134255 | hahahahahaha,
dude,too funny. |
| Good [+1]Toggle ReplyLink» daFTWin replied on Wed May 11, 2005 @ 10:47am |
 Coolness: 276420 | Does that mean that if you cheat on your bf/gf with someone from ottawa it isnt considered cheating because they dont exist? heheh :b
I've been cheated on, and I found out by myself. The thing what was the hardest for me about it was forgetting, I forgave, but I could never forget, and thats what fucks with you. I think its because when your in a relationship, typically, there isnt much worse you can do then cheat. once that happens, theres no telling what else could happen, even if you try your hardest to believe they wont cheat again. I could never ever justify making someone feel the way I felt when I found out it had happend. I know that if I were in a relationship with someone again, even if it wasnt serious, i'd want them to know exactly how I felt about them, and if i were to have any sort of interest in someone else, even if it were an attraction and I didn't know what could happen, i think if the person I was seing was someone who would want to know about that sort of thing, then I would tell him. I hate doubting the way I feel, and I wouldn't want to make someone doubt the way they feel about me. |
| Good [+1]Toggle ReplyLink» AlienZeD replied on Wed May 11, 2005 @ 12:38pm |
 Coolness: 509545 | I've said it before and I'll say it again. TRUST FUCKING NO ONE! Doesn't mean you can't have a little fun but if you live for and because of someone else, you are BOUND for hurt. Emotions have NO ROOT WHATSOEVER in logic and so it is impossible to love without being hurt at some point. It's like eating only ice cream and expecting to stay just as healthy... I came up with a pretty decent comparisson to dating. When you get into a relationship, it's like leasing a car:
1. It isn't YOURS, you're sharing it's abilities. 2. You need to fill it with fuel otherwise it'll stop working. 2. You can ride it all you want when you have it but you have NO RIGHTS at all when it's gone, and you don't know in advance when that will be. 3. As you grow, so does the car in your perception. And as well the car's perception of you. 4. Mileage ONLY goes up. There's NO turning back (changing the past). 5. If you treat it well now it will treat you well later. (friendship/no hard feelings/no regrets/break lines not cut by previous leased cars :D) 6. Some cars are lemons (just waiting to break [up]) 7. The nicer looking the car is, the better chance you have of getting it stolen. And besides, all your friends will want a ride ;) 8. NOTHING LASTS FOREVER. (one of you is gonna die first) SO what does that all mean? It means you had a sweet ass car for a couple months/years! Great! You had some fun times with that car and while you had it, it always got you where you needed it to go. You gained lots of experience that you can use for your next car. We should treat relationships MORE like cars because: -You have to understand you are two different entities with completely different needs. -If you spend TOO much time taking care of your car, you won't be able to make the lease payments and BYE BYE car. -The car needs its space or it will get scratched/damaged/sufficated by YOU. -You have to treat it properly the only way you know how or it will break [up] way too soon. Cheating is wrong because it shows an utter disrespect. If your partner can't respect you, they don't deserve you. Rise above your instincts/emotions and realize you don't want someone who is gonna treat you like shit anyway. BUT relationships are great AND worth it, they teach you more about yourself and life than any other commitment you'll ever make. Besides... girls are too sexy not to want to ride... I mean date ;) |
| Good [+1]Toggle ReplyLink» neoform replied on Wed May 11, 2005 @ 12:41pm |
 Coolness: 339650 | Instincts are useless to those with higher brain functions, and should be ignored. |
| Good [+1]Toggle ReplyLink» AlienZeD replied on Wed May 11, 2005 @ 3:04pm |
| Coolness: 509545 | If we could ignore our instincts, we'd become a super race and learn to live happy in pollution and corruption forever. Until the sun expands and kills us all. Oh wait that's what going to happen anyway |
| Good [+1]Toggle ReplyLink» elka replied on Wed May 11, 2005 @ 3:19pm |
| Coolness: 52415 | Originally posted by ALIEN ZED...
I've said it before and I'll say it again. TRUST FUCKING NO ONE! Doesn't mean you can't have a little fun but if you live for and because of someone else, you are BOUND for hurt. Emotions have NO ROOT WHATSOEVER in logic and so it is impossible to love without being hurt at some point. It's like eating only ice cream and expecting to stay just as healthy... I came up with a pretty decent comparisson to dating. When you get into a relationship, it's like leasing a car: 1. It isn't YOURS, you're sharing it's abilities. 2. You need to fill it with fuel otherwise it'll stop working. 2. You can ride it all you want when you have it but you have NO RIGHTS at all when it's gone, and you don't know in advance when that will be. 3. As you grow, so does the car in your perception. And as well the car's perception of you. 4. Mileage ONLY goes up. There's NO turning back (changing the past). 5. If you treat it well now it will treat you well later. (friendship/no hard feelings/no regrets/break lines not cut by previous leased cars :D) 6. Some cars are lemons (just waiting to break [up]) 7. The nicer looking the car is, the better chance you have of getting it stolen. And besides, all your friends will want a ride ;) 8. NOTHING LASTS FOREVER. (one of you is gonna die first) SO what does that all mean? It means you had a sweet ass car for a couple months/years! Great! You had some fun times with that car and while you had it, it always got you where you needed it to go. You gained lots of experience that you can use for your next car. We should treat relationships MORE like cars because: -You have to understand you are two different entities with completely different needs. -If you spend TOO much time taking care of your car, you won't be able to make the lease payments and BYE BYE car. -The car needs its space or it will get scratched/damaged/sufficated by YOU. -You have to treat it properly the only way you know how or it will break [up] way too soon. Cheating is wrong because it shows an utter disrespect. If your partner can't respect you, they don't deserve you. Rise above your instincts/emotions and realize you don't want someone who is gonna treat you like shit anyway. BUT relationships are great AND worth it, they teach you more about yourself and life than any other commitment you'll ever make. Besides... girls are too sexy not to want to ride... I mean date ;) hehehhehe i really like these comparisons. too true :P |
| Good [+1]Toggle ReplyLink» Zz.ee.vV replied on Wed May 11, 2005 @ 6:59pm |
 Coolness: 194010 | Originally posted by DJNEOFORM...
Instincts are useless to those with higher brain functions, and should be ignored. not true. higher brain functions allow to make more sense of instincs and use them to your advantage instead of letting them lead you astray. regardless of what anyone says, all final decisions are based on emotion. what leads to the decision may be analytical up the gazoo, but no amount of analysis can make you TOTALLY SURE, so final decision is always in some way kind of like "aw fuck it!" now alot of people misinterpret emotions/instincts and may not understand what their body/brain hormonal balance is trying to tell them. it may be good to distance oneself in order to get to a point you are no longer DEPENDENT on them. once there, though, and you have the power to steer your own emotions and use them to your advantage, and read insticts correctly... it becomes what it always should have been if majority of people weren't so confused - another way of your subconscious communicating with your conscious. whether anyone's aware of it or not, thats really what this shit comes down to. |
| Good [+1]Toggle ReplyLink» daFTWin replied on Wed May 11, 2005 @ 7:24pm |
| Coolness: 276420 | I trust my insticts more than my own judgement, its never been wrong. |
| Good [+1]Toggle ReplyLink» cinderella_soul replied on Wed May 11, 2005 @ 11:48pm |
| Coolness: 56185 | Originally posted by REDNATASHA...
been on all sides of the issue, sometimes our artner is wonderful but does not meet all our needs. right or wrong does not enter into it as an abstract. it is situational. what do you mean by right or wrong does not enter it as an abstract? |
| Good [+1]Toggle ReplyLink» cinderella_soul replied on Wed May 11, 2005 @ 11:51pm |
| Coolness: 56185 | Originally posted by MOONDANCER...
Originally posted by cinderella soul...I am sorta in a similar situation I saw my mom's b-friend kiss the neighboor on the lips. I told him I saw him.. he started to denye it bbut then stoppeed. I haven't told my mom-- I would want someone to tell me though, wouldn't you? It's tough though get involved--don't get ivolved.. ?!
Telling people things like that is hard, I`d have an especially hard time telling my mom for some reason. if she doesn`t already know I think you should tell her cause living in a lie sucks and might just make it more painful later. it`s eeerrr... awkward though. was there tongue? no tongue and I think I will tell her. I was thinking of telling her this morning but we were in the car and on the way to work and I would like to be able to talk about it with her as much as needed. Instead of by the way... oh shit gotta run my train is coming. |
| Good [+1]Toggle ReplyLink» cinderella_soul replied on Thu May 12, 2005 @ 12:03am |
| Coolness: 56185 | Originally posted by ALIEN ZED...
I've said it before and I'll say it again. TRUST FUCKING NO ONE! Doesn't mean you can't have a little fun but if you live for and because of someone else, you are BOUND for hurt. Emotions have NO ROOT WHATSOEVER in logic and so it is impossible to love without being hurt at some point. It's like eating only ice cream and expecting to stay just as healthy... I came up with a pretty decent comparisson to dating. When you get into a relationship, it's like leasing a car: 1. It isn't YOURS, you're sharing it's abilities. 2. You need to fill it with fuel otherwise it'll stop working. 2. You can ride it all you want when you have it but you have NO RIGHTS at all when it's gone, and you don't know in advance when that will be. 3. As you grow, so does the car in your perception. And as well the car's perception of you. 4. Mileage ONLY goes up. There's NO turning back (changing the past). 5. If you treat it well now it will treat you well later. (friendship/no hard feelings/no regrets/break lines not cut by previous leased cars :D) 6. Some cars are lemons (just waiting to break [up]) 7. The nicer looking the car is, the better chance you have of getting it stolen. And besides, all your friends will want a ride ;) 8. NOTHING LASTS FOREVER. (one of you is gonna die first) SO what does that all mean? It means you had a sweet ass car for a couple months/years! Great! You had some fun times with that car and while you had it, it always got you where you needed it to go. You gained lots of experience that you can use for your next car. We should treat relationships MORE like cars because: -You have to understand you are two different entities with completely different needs. -If you spend TOO much time taking care of your car, you won't be able to make the lease payments and BYE BYE car. -The car needs its space or it will get scratched/damaged/sufficated by YOU. -You have to treat it properly the only way you know how or it will break [up] way too soon. Cheating is wrong because it shows an utter disrespect. If your partner can't respect you, they don't deserve you. Rise above your instincts/emotions and realize you don't want someone who is gonna treat you like shit anyway. BUT relationships are great AND worth it, they teach you more about yourself and life than any other commitment you'll ever make. Besides... girls are too sexy not to want to ride... I mean date ;) that was so amusing. I think the metaphor of boyfriend/girlfriend relationships as cars works well. Trusting is somewhat not substantial enough for me. Why trust, when you can know, find out or be reolutely unsure. It's so much more conduscive to logic and not being decieved. There is no need to trust. Even though it may sound like a contradiction I do think it is possible to be too trusting or not trusting enough. If and when I enter into another "boyfriend/girlfriend" relationship, I will not ask that person to be faithful to me, not to cheat. Because I do not think it is fair or realistic to demand such a thing. This is what I've been thinking lately. The act ought to come from one's heart and not just to please me and that goes for everything! |
| Good [+1]Toggle ReplyLink» AlienZeD replied on Thu May 12, 2005 @ 1:05am |
| Coolness: 509545 | Hell I wish more people thought like you, but it is so hard to find anyone with any decent morals anymore. When ever I find a girl that I can really relate to, I too often just stay friends so that nothing will fuck the relationship up. Jealousy, paranoia, ups, downs, trust, love, deceit, sex, oh the sex... relationships are chaos (stupid emotions eh?)! I am exagerating a little bit, but during all that time that you spend... just really enjoying the company of a special person in your life... Don't you want or even NEED to know that they aren't fucking someone else? Sounds harsh like that but everyone wants a little bit of control over their own life, and when half of your life is a living, breathing, eating, sleeping, working, learning, talking, flirting... person, you have no control over half your life! UNLESS you can trust them. I guess it would be a very noble lie to say:"Hey baby, you can trust me!" When the truth is that I don't even know what I am doing tomorrow night, or who I'm doing tomorrow night. |
| Good [+1]Toggle ReplyLink» nothingnopenope replied on Thu May 12, 2005 @ 1:06am |
 Coolness: 201210 | alien zed: You forgot number 9: Causes lots of pollution which eventually destroys the world and makes everyone sick. |
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