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| Good [+3]Toggle ReplyLink» pussyvamp replied on Sun Feb 1, 2009 @ 11:11am |
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Originally Posted By STRIK_IX It all changed when I started raving and realised that what all those assholes thought about me didnt matter. I've got news for you, you're an asshole too I've rarely seen someone as consistently negative, judgemental and insulting as you Strik, ever! Wow.. that was really uncalled for. And coming from the guy who says "lets bring PLUR back". Dude, the guy is asking for some friendly advice, ppl are giving him such, and then u gotta come in here and start st spreading your negativity? ... DynV, I sympathize with you.. I used to have pretty bad self esteem issues. I'm still not the most confident person.. sometimes I'm shyer than others, but I'm definately a lot more out-going than I used to be. I've gained a lot of confidence in myself in the past years, and most of that is due to raving. You really can't find a more accepting crowd. What might be a good idea to start off is maybe start talking to some ppl and getting to know them on [ rave.ca ] Then, when you see them at a party, you'll already know them a little bit from talking to them online, and maybe it will be a little less awkward. That's how I got to know some of the first ppl I started hanging with in raves. BTW, what is this event you're going to? |
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| Good [+2]Toggle ReplyLink» BOBDYLAN replied on Sun Feb 1, 2009 @ 11:27am |
 Coolness: 148325 | pussyvamp, we got your point...but lets not fuck up thread to talk about the shit eater
on topic: you guys should go play chess, like honestly, i don't know both of you but you express yourselves very cleary and seems to be honest...wish you both best of luck and see you soon in a rave near you! :) BLAST TES WATTS 6 fevrier, be sure to stay till the end, I mix at 7am, but you will ALL shit in your pants!!!! the line up is good, its only 10$ and i prepare the master surprise, a never seen before thing... [ www.rave.ca ] hehehe |
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| Good [+2]Toggle ReplyLink» basdini replied on Sun Feb 1, 2009 @ 11:32am |
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| Good [+2]Toggle ReplyLink» databoy replied on Sun Feb 1, 2009 @ 12:27pm |
 Coolness: 106255 | Originally Posted By VEGANNIBAL
The great thing about parties is that in general, people don't judge you for being a bit shy or awkward, and it's perfectly OK to not know how to dance. Just flail around, that's what most people are doing anyways. It's about feeling good, not impressing everyone else. In fact if you are flailing around without any dancing skill, many people tend to think you are even cooler for being a carefree flailer. If you just feel like sitting there, that is fine too. There are different ways to enjoy a party. You do have the right to sit, and be quiet, and not talk to anyone :) Nobody (who's worth your caring) is going to judge you badly for that. QFT. Originally Posted By VEGANNIBAL
Hey! Would you like to go to a party together? I don't take drugs at them either. I always go alone and just melt into the energy of a party but actually going with someone might be interesting! We can grab some dinner or tea or something and then go to the party! Do you like chess? I'd take her up on that offer... If your lucky, you might even get a little compassion. ;) p.s. bring earplugs. |
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| Good [+2]Toggle ReplyLink» BOBDYLAN replied on Sun Feb 1, 2009 @ 12:31pm |
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I'd take her up on that offer... If your lucky, you might even get a little compassion. ;) p.s. bring earplugs. QFT :) earplugs! :) i never met you data, cant wait, your post always show intelligence and argumentation without personnal sophism, that i like the most. databoy for viceprez |
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| Good [+2]Toggle ReplyLink» databoy replied on Sun Feb 1, 2009 @ 12:34pm |
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| Good [+2]Toggle ReplyLink» DynV replied on Sun Feb 1, 2009 @ 12:44pm |
 Coolness: 108945 | Gamos, Vegannibal, Kuzutetsu, Strik_IX (again) and pussyvamp thank you kindly for your advice or sharing your thoughts ; I'll feel spiritual support even though I'll be alone giving me some extra time before I bolt out again if I get caught up like I did ; although I may come back after calming down as I live much further away. I wish I invested more in my spirituality, I could just meditate, contemplate or ponder.
For anyone who suggested speed or the like I guess the updates need to be bigger and bolder as it was mentioned : PS: I won't take any psychotropic substance. Originally Posted By STRIK_IX
DynV - I suggest you use your "God Emperor" powers and just ban blisss from this thread so we can keep this discussion as positive and on topic as possible. If you dont know our local thunder troll, you will very soon. I try real hard not to feed it, but the hungrier it gets the more it yaps and destroys the furniture. I've acted on you suggestion as indeed his replies were all uncalled for and just disturptive to the topic. Originally Posted By vegannibal
We can grab some dinner or tea or something and then go to the party! Do you like chess? It would be my pleasure to engage in fun activities with you or anyone friendly, the more the merrier. Originally Posted By pussyvamp
BTW, what is this event you're going to? [ www.rave.ca ] and I will be the one looking like as hobo with my long hair and facial hair, I guess I fit more I my usual crowd : metal. |
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| Good [+2]Toggle ReplyLink» Kuzutetsu replied on Sun Feb 1, 2009 @ 12:47pm |
 Coolness: 133175 | there will be hot goth girls @ a combichrist show o(^_^)o; might have to check that out :P hehehe |
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| Good [+2]Toggle ReplyLink» Holly_Golightly replied on Sun Feb 1, 2009 @ 1:56pm |
 Coolness: 158875 | Originally Posted By DYNV
Hello and sorry for crashing the party as it seem the latest posts were about joyful topics, hopefully I won't get too much negative replies ... First of all, I've always been socially awkward, it seems everyone but me seems to say the right thing at the right time, the few acquaintances I have are like me in that sense so we get along but they seem as inept as me socially. Here's the problem : I've always went to shows with someone close that live far away and only like one genre of music thus I'm alone if I want to event playing EBM, aggrotech, dubstep, drum & bass, etc. Actually I've only been to one event featuring such a genre and the night seemed young and some where dancing but it wasn't my style so I though I'd go in a dark corner to hide and just chill until I wanted to dance but although it hasn't well well lit everyone could see others faces so unless I fixed a wall or something I was bound to looked at people and being alone I was very awkward so I finished the couple drinks I order and bolted out even though a DJ I really liked was just an hour or two away ... I was too nervous and humiliated. :( Now I'm going to a bigger event so hopefully there won't only be 30 people in the room so my lonely face won't be as much recurring and hopefully I can just blend in, or at least not stick out. I don't know what I'll do if the same situation repeat itself, this time it will take me much more time to go and the cost won't be so inconsiderable. I never had ease at chit chat and, obviously, have some self-esteem issues. Thank you for advice for this specific situation or close ones Je prends très bien les conseils francophone cependant j'ai constaté la prépondérance de l'anglais dans le groupe de discussion. hi Dynv! i just want to say to you that a lots of people are like you... that's why a lots of people start to do drugs or drink booze... you are not alone to feel like that.. :) myself i don't feel awkward socially in your way but i have a little social "phobia" : phone!!!(thanks to textmess..) my parents and 2 girls best friends are the only one i feel completely comfortable on the phone with..oh! and my friends nathan & colin & francois haha..really.. that's about the only peeps ill talk on the phone more than 1 1/2 minutes... and that's not happening too often.. i kind of avoid it sometimes.. the first time i have to call someone i really need to calm the fuck down.. I'm such a visual person that i feel the communication is always weird.. i really do feel like the first time i called a boy i have a crush on.. sometimes i even have palpitations.. i'm scared to not understand the other person.. or to say something stupid...or to have a weird accent (well i have one haha).. or the worse.. have nothing to say..(even thought silence can be a very comfortable thing to experience w/ great friends/love..that's different..) all that is the most surprising because in social events i'm majority of time a real "social butterfly"...(but i'm kind of like Cinderella pass 6am if im still there i'm usually becoming quite silent sometimes... haha..) i almost always have fun with anybody i can possibly met... in all kind of events! it's even happened that my bf myriam call me to the rescue for a cousin family dinner affair because she was scared that nobody would entertain, discuss or make simple conversation.. one of my old favorite things to do was to go on sona nights totally alone.. w/out any rendez-vous.. yeah 4 sure each nights i was meeting/crossing acquaintances but i was hanging out by myself majority of the night... i felt such a pleasure to be independent and talk to whoever and go wherever...observing people...it's feel stupid cliche to say but i felt like a black panther in the jungle night haha...awwww i loved those nights! omg yeah def. the wildest also haha 0_' but i haven't been like that my whole life.. they were a time i thought i was so much different that anyway people wouldn't like me or care about me or what i have to say... they would think i'm strange and ugly or whatever... i didn't change over night but when i was 7 yo i perfectly remember that i didn't want people to affect me and that i would be with myself all this life that i have the chance to have and that i might just enjoy the fucking ride.. the fact that you faced a wall and didn't wait for the act to play make me think you really need to change your approach or feelings about yourself a lot. why didn't you just simply went to a table and sit or look at people who were dancing or go to the bar and order a soda drink? i didn't look at your profile so i didn't realized your age or sex... anyway ...This is the best tips i have, it's based on my personal experiences and useful books that i read about good manners/social behaviors in society... 1- the most important rules: PEOPLE DON'T FUCKING CARE!!!!! that's my #1 rule because it is so true when i realized that a lot's of things became easier... often people have social trouble or awkward feelings about things that people REALLY BUT REALLY DON'T CARE ABOUT. like your pimple on your nose... or like this friend in high school, who didn't want to sit alone at cafeteria, she wanted to meet before because she thought it was awful to be sitting alone around other crowds.. or like if you screw up on a word... or if they think your ugly.... or you have something really different.. i don't know.. this type of bullshit...all in all at the end of the day: people don't really care!!!!!!!! 2- SMILE TO PEOPLE. EVEN IF THEY ARE NOT SMILING FIRST. I'm not talking about a idiotic smile.. try to put feelings like openness in it. ;) smmiiile 3- the best trick when you meet friends, acquaintances or strangers is to be open.. if there's no already conversation established on a particular subject and that you don't feel to talk about yourself or that you don't know what to talk about... ASK QUESTION ABOUT THIS PERSON.. i mean not like a police officer but ask them where they work... what they like... everybody have a passion and from then you can relate on some of what they say... i learned the best thing in my life doing that w/ friends and peeps.. and I'm sure that i provided that to other as well! 4- don't forget that in life there's people who are introvert and other who are extrovert and very out going! and sometimes it depends on the relation// as you might realized now if you read all the shit i just wrote I'm pretty talkative but in some relation I'm the one listening... sometimes it's 50/50... 5- you know the best is to be comfortable with yourself.. AND STAY YOURSELF... try to not judge people.. at least on what they say... if some people rejects you or dislike you well whatever.. it's like: NEEEXXXXTTTT!!! 6- enjoy being awkward... i didn't really realized if you are a guy or a girl... but anyway in both way.. i always (and im not the only woman to think that) thought that awkward men are quite sexy... back in the day i was single there's nothing that i enjoyed more than trying to flirt with a cute awkward guys... some of my gf and i even classify that as a parascolaire activity.. hahaha whatever if you're shy... just accept yourself.. have a collarbone.. be proud.. Update » Holly_Golightly wrote on Sun Feb 1, 2009 @ 1:59pm ps" wow i really surpassed myself in length this time... omg *roll eyes* |
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| Good [+2]Toggle ReplyLink» Strik_IX replied on Sun Feb 1, 2009 @ 2:01pm |
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[ www.rave.ca ] and I will be the one looking like as hobo with my long hair and facial hair, I guess I fit more I my usual crowd : metal. If there is one thing raves made me realize, looks is nothing... Sure, there's a bunch VERY colorful suits and a whole of different styles pushed to the extreme, it doesnt matter. What matters is love for music, dont let anyone tell you any different. The idiots who think raves are fashion shows arent worth your time, or mine for that matter. It's what we call posers, they go out with their nifty suits, pop a whole bunch of pills (or not), sit in a corner bitching people out cuz of their looks while the rest of us are having fun... Dont get me wrong, there is a whole lot of said posers in parties, but theres a whole lot of nice people too. I actually started raving and the people I had most fun with were of various different styles, a few goths, a few junglists, couple of goa hippies, candy kids and people who just dress like their going to work. My point is that music brought us together and most of these people are still friends to this day... 10 years later. Dont let the fashion victims make a victim out of you, live your life as you sit fit, who cares what a couple douchebags think? :P |
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| Good [+1]Toggle ReplyLink» Holly_Golightly replied on Sun Feb 1, 2009 @ 2:18pm |
| Coolness: 158875 | and I will be the one looking like as hobo with my long hair and facial hair, I guess I fit more I my usual crowd : metal.
what are you talking about... you sounds like a pussy here c'mon there's guy w/ long and facial hair everywhere// you are in paranoia people don't care about your look or your facial hair.. danmit just go out and have fun! yay!!! because why? because fun is #1!!!!!11!!!eleven!!!! |
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| Good [+2]Toggle ReplyLink» v.2-1 replied on Sun Feb 1, 2009 @ 2:23pm |
 Coolness: 159260 | Originally Posted By STRIK_IX
Dont get me wrong, there is a whole lot of said posers in parties, but theres a whole lot of nice people too. I actually started raving and the people I had most fun with were of various different styles, a few goths, a few junglists, couple of goa hippies, candy kids and people who just dress like their going to work. My point is that music brought us together and most of these people are still friends to this day... 10 years later. QFT, how long have we know each other ? LOL. And I agree with Strik_IX and everyone here : do your own thing, man. Looking like a metalhead has NOTHING TO DO with your love for music. :) And you know, you even get MORE POINTS if you don't try to fit in. If one thing, it'll just show everyone that you're open-minded enough to, as a supposed metalhead, appreciate ANY style of music you find interesting. I have a lot of respect for people who don't try to fit in too much and do they own thang. And good job in keeping Bliss out of this thread. As we all can see, he bitched at Strik_IX for being negative...by being as negative about it as possible. What an oxymoron. Or in his case, just plain moron. |
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| Good [+2]Toggle ReplyLink» DynV replied on Sun Feb 1, 2009 @ 3:13pm |
| Coolness: 108945 | Also I think I would've been just fine in a rave as I would've benefited anonymity but in the case I bolted out the room was 30' x 50' and there was no dark corner, there was NOWHERE to contemplate without gazing at the ceiling/wall/face and the only way I could avoid looking over and over at people's faces was to stair at a wall ; not fun AT ALL !
Thank you for your advice Betty_Haze but even if someone don't care, they'll notice if the person keep looking around, as the room is small, and look at you. And I was at the bar and had a couple drinks like my original post noted. I think there's some confusion, I didn't talk about problem with my look, I just described it in case someone here would notice me. I doubt you see often men with beard over 6" and still growing ... I do look like a hobo and I don't give a shit about that. |
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| Good [+2]Toggle ReplyLink» Holly_Golightly replied on Sun Feb 1, 2009 @ 3:16pm |
| Coolness: 158875 | i'm sorry if i didn't understand what is your problem.
why were you facing the wall? or quit before the act you wanted to dance on? why didn't you just chill and be comfortable? i just try to understand .. |
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| Good [+3]Toggle ReplyLink» Strik_IX replied on Sun Feb 1, 2009 @ 3:21pm |
| Coolness: 88780 | Originally Posted By DYNV
Why is this thread trash ?! Cuz our good friend blisss must've rated it... that is easily fixed, all I need is someone else to rate it insightful too and it will be back on track. Update » Strik_IX wrote on Sun Feb 1, 2009 @ 3:22pm I hit 20k kewlness with this post, I feel so much kewler OH MAI GAWD! |
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| Good [+2]Toggle ReplyLink» BOBDYLAN replied on Sun Feb 1, 2009 @ 3:23pm |
| Coolness: 148325 | Why is this thread trash ?![/trash]
DYNV, trash, bah we don't care about that shit, the vote and stuff, fuck all, no one ever use that except some haters.... and some hippies when they fantasm on some sort of bracelet or new glow stick... and by the way, most of the raver people don't use drugs...Me as the first example! |
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| Good [+2]Toggle ReplyLink» Strik_IX replied on Sun Feb 1, 2009 @ 3:24pm |
| Coolness: 88780 | You dont need drugs Mickos hahahaha! |
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| Good [+2]Toggle ReplyLink» DynV replied on Sun Feb 1, 2009 @ 3:33pm |
| Coolness: 108945 | So you're visual, here it is ... [ picasaweb.google.com ] |
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| Good [+2]Toggle ReplyLink» Holly_Golightly replied on Sun Feb 1, 2009 @ 4:52pm |
| Coolness: 158875 | ok i'm not sure to get what you want to communicate.
so you mean you were uncomfortable because of the configuration of the club/bar? well here's my tip: change place where you go out. i thought you were feeling socially awkward. |
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| Good [+2]Toggle ReplyLink» Vegan replied on Sun Feb 1, 2009 @ 5:25pm |
 Coolness: 38910 | Originally Posted By BASDINI
"Vegannibal and DynV sitting in a tree "K" "I" "S" "S" "I" "N" "G"..." lalala "Vegannibal and DynV sitting in a tree.... "K" "I" "S" "S" "I" "N" "G"..." I'll kiss whoever the fuck I want, BASDINI /Mickos, but thanks for giving me the go-ahead. =D |
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