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| Good [+1]Toggle ReplyLink» Zz.ee.vV replied on Tue Feb 7, 2006 @ 1:26pm |
 Coolness: 194175 | you said its been 10 months man! take it from someone who went thru some pretty bad breakups. CUT CONTACT. youre letting your feelings fester and they are eating you alive. it doesnt take time. it takes a DECISION. a firm one. and the friend thing is a reverse-rationalization bro, its pretty clear from where im standing although I understand how it may be counter-intuitive from your position.
take your balls in your hand and choose hard few months of no contact whatsoever that will heal you, over the slow lingering painful communication with no positive outcome whatsoever for you OR her. I bet she just finds you annoying now. harsh truth man. |
| Good [+1]Toggle ReplyLink» trashandsuicide replied on Tue Feb 7, 2006 @ 1:39pm |
 Coolness: 75420 | Heh.. I find myself, and her, and the whole situation annoying.. I'm just sick of the whole thing.. I hear where you're coming from man.. and believe me... you shoulda seen me like... 5-6 months ago.. it was a lot worse...
But in all fairness, I don't want you to think that its just the unending pile of shit... its hard to explain, if ever we see eachother at a party or something, I'll give you the full down-lo.... its too long and complicated and deserves to be in a novel or movie or something... |
| Good [+1]Toggle ReplyLink» Zz.ee.vV replied on Tue Feb 7, 2006 @ 1:58pm |
| Coolness: 194175 | alright man, np. after all its your life. and yes, every story is unique. but in generatily, these things usually follow patters and i've seen one you describing recurring times and times again. symptoms as well as results are almost always always the same, and so are ways of resolution.
most likely, one day you'll look back and this and wonder what took you so long to rise above. good luck bro. |
| Good [+1]Toggle ReplyLink» trashandsuicide replied on Tue Feb 7, 2006 @ 4:31pm |
| Coolness: 75420 | Oh man.. I hope you're right.. I know I gotta snap out of it.. but its a question of timing.. it'll happen when its supposed to happen, ya know? |
| Good [+1]Toggle ReplyLink» Zz.ee.vV replied on Tue Feb 7, 2006 @ 5:16pm |
| Coolness: 194175 | well, if you ask me, being proactive beats reactive anyday when it comes to emotions. or just about anything else. |
| Good [+1]Toggle ReplyLink» flo replied on Tue Feb 7, 2006 @ 10:12pm |
 Coolness: 146475 | Keith i've been through approximately the same kind of story as yours... then it ended about a year ago, i've been through about 2 months of huge pain, trying to contact her as soon as i found a good reason to do so, and would it be on the phone or face to face, it was always worse and worse even though i thought the opposite at that time...
My best move has been to make something she couldn't stand (but i didn't know at that time)... then she totally broke the communication with me... which i should have done from the beginning ! That's really at that point, when the communication totally ends (no news whatsoever), and when i stopped thinking about her all the time and like a loss, that things became really better ! btw at that time i started yoga and jogging and it really helped me feel better and change A LOT of things in my life & personnality. don't fear change, it's always good, even if it seems risky or stupid at first. |
| Good [+1]Toggle ReplyLink» trashandsuicide replied on Tue Feb 7, 2006 @ 10:21pm |
| Coolness: 75420 | Say... didn't you move to another country? I'm sure that helped loads. But yeah... you guys are failing to realise that with me and Hil there are actually a fair amount of good times too... like... we spend the weekends together pretty often (because her new man doesn't party for shit) and then its like... 2-3 days of old times ).. if it was seriously ALL bad... of course I wouldn't be holding on. Truth be told, there's more good then bad most of the time.. but I'm just sort of lacking that "completely whole" feeling... |
| Good [+1]Toggle ReplyLink» flo replied on Tue Feb 7, 2006 @ 10:26pm |
| Coolness: 146475 | i moved on november 1st, which was over 6 months after, and i was already going really really good before that.
as for what you added... before my "communication breakdown", we still used to see each other and have fun like in the "good old days" (or almost), but anyway... it was actually doing us more bad than good. to me, the problem is in attachment/dependency/affective link mistaken for love. |
| Good [+1]Toggle ReplyLink» trashandsuicide replied on Tue Feb 7, 2006 @ 10:28pm |
| Coolness: 75420 | Yeah, but really.. that's all love is in the first place... I dunno.. its super fucked... I just wanna be loved and love someone back!! *cries* lol.. but seriously... its not as one sided as these things usually are.. like I said... I'm doing like a zillion million times better then I was last summer... the trouble is I still definately want Hil in my life.. preferably as my lover, but mos def in my life in some way... |
| Good [+1]Toggle ReplyLink» flo replied on Tue Feb 7, 2006 @ 10:38pm |
| Coolness: 146475 | then i don't know what to say to you... either you realize that you CAN live a genuinely happy life without her, or you keep your feet on your current ground and keep her in your mind (then your happiness depends on fate, or luck, or hazards, call it as you wish... you will still have ups and downs because of that and you may not want to handle them)
trust life and trust yourself :) |
| Good [+1]Toggle ReplyLink» trashandsuicide replied on Wed Feb 8, 2006 @ 1:06am |
| Coolness: 75420 | I dunno.. I realize that I can live a happy life without her... it's just a matter of whether I WANT to or not really. |
| Good [+1]Toggle ReplyLink» v.2-1 replied on Wed Feb 8, 2006 @ 3:41am |
 Coolness: 159270 | I'm afraid I'm with Keith on that. I mean, women always say men have a hard time settling down. He managed to do so, with whom he thought was the love of his life only to get his heart raped by someone he trusted fully. That shit is traumatizing and if it takes him a year to get over it little by little instead of severing ties immediately, becoming single rather violently through such a psychologically ruining event and blowing a fucking fuse or possibly his brains out, I say it's all good.
I personally feel this is stuff that can't be discussed, the same way you can't expect people to behave the same way when they are grief-stricken ....or how people react differently to ecstasy, in layman's terms. I am aware though that we are just discussing different avenues, not imposing our personal views on how to handle all this, rest assured. |
| Good [+1]Toggle ReplyLink» trashandsuicide replied on Wed Feb 8, 2006 @ 4:26am |
| Coolness: 75420 | Thanks Psonyk.. I mean.. a lot of my close friends who know all the details and have been with me every step of the way often mention that they`re in complete awe of the fact that I haven`t gone apeshit in one way or the other.. and I think that`s a good thing.. I haven`t lost myself to anger/drugs/depression or anything... so i think I`m sort of one step ahead of the game in some senses...
When most guys hear about my situation they`re all like "I would kill him" or whatever... Different strokes... |
| Good [+1]Toggle ReplyLink» DynV replied on Wed Feb 8, 2006 @ 8:08am |
 Coolness: 108955 | I luv I I I I Luv u
I I I I I Luv u III...I..I..I Luv u II Luv u I luv u I I I I I I I LLLuv u u u [Dizzee Rascal:] Yo If that girl know's where you stay thats poor some whore banging on your door what for pregnant? what're you talking about this for fifteen, she's underage thats raw and against law 5 years or more and she wants a score and half of a draw some kind of friend that you try and ignore that whore got you pinned down to the floor but its your own fault you said three magic words (i love you) when thats the one for the birds when you said that she forgot other boys its over you better start buying the toys there was no intention in front of your wife that she knows this that she's ending your life its a real shame you got hacked by the whores its a real shame that kid probably aint yours [CHORUS] [Dizzee Rascal:] That girl' some bitch ya know she keep calling my phone she dont leave me alone she just moan and groan she just keep ringin me at home these days i dont answer my phone [Girl:] That boy' some prick you kna' all up in my hair thinks that i care keeps following me here keeps following me there these days i cant go no where |
| Good [+1]Toggle ReplyLink» Marie_Poppins replied on Wed Mar 22, 2006 @ 4:30pm |
 Coolness: 39320 | Originally posted by THE MAN...
Originally posted by little sarah...
Originally posted by HEATHER PIE HOLE...
 i refuse to believe that :( yeah mee too this is so not true You have reason it's not true I have the proof with me :) Love and beleive in it |
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