Marriage
| Good [+1]Toggle ReplyLink» hybride replied on Wed Dec 6, 2006 @ 11:35pm |
 Coolness: 51010 | Le mariage est la plus belle promesse d'amour que deux personnes peuvent s'offrir, surtout devant Dieu. C'est une union extraordinaire qui fait évoluer l'amour et qui le fait maturer à mon avis. |
| Good [+1]Toggle ReplyLink» Screwhead replied on Wed Dec 6, 2006 @ 11:43pm |
 Coolness: 685540 | Yeah shit never really works out the way you'd think/want it to. Last relationship I was in, we were going out for 3 years, we wanted to get married and have kids. Then when she got pregnant, she freaked about "losing her freedom" (aka "I want to fuck other people"), got an abortion, and 3 months later broke up with me.
Mariage these days doesn't really serve much of a purpose. The only reason mariage was invented, was for the same reason that baptism was invented; the church wanted more money. Can't have sex out of wedlock, weddings cost money. Can't have sex without the intent to reproduce, and baptisms cost money. Have sex without the intent to reproduce/when you're not married, confession used to cost money. What people need is not to get married, because that's just a contract that can (and usually will these days) go wrong in every possible way. People don't need a contract binding them to another person so that if they want to break it they'll have all sorts of hassles and have to pay all sorts of legal fees and split the money/possesions in half. People need to sort themselves out and just learn to live with each other. No need for a piece of paper declaring your love to another official. If you need a piece of paper to prove you love someone, then you don't really love them. |
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| Good [+1]Toggle ReplyLink» Eve-Hill replied on Thu Dec 7, 2006 @ 12:19am |
 Coolness: 71710 | I was going out with someone for about a year and a half. We both hated going back and forth for school, he lived in St Eustache and was goign to champlain, I lived in the west island and was going to school in the west island. Considering a bunch of factors we thought life would be easier if we moved in together. I wanted to wait till December or just give it some more thought periode but he pushed and pushed and i ended up agreeing to move into this perfect little apt we found in july.. ( this was somethign like july 2004 ). He kinda slowly started turning into a psychotic asshole 2 or 3 months before we moved in together but I just thought we were just going through a rough phase that would pass.. we had the odd fight but we never had a rough patch before. By september we Update » Eve-Hill wrote on Thu Dec 7, 2006 @ 12:27am had broken up and went to the status of dating and by october I was like ...fuck this shit and moved out. Then comes the psychotic phonealls, various threats in order to get me to move back in, 16 phone calls in the middle of the night while drunk.. just being a complete ass. In november finaly realizes how badly he treated me and what it was like to totaly destroy a nice and sweet person and then there comes the obssessiveness, semi stalking and all this other fucked up shit. All of this just because he a) took advantage of my kindness and that I used to be a passive agressive person and b) because he freaked out that this was " it".
Here I am trying to condense the most complicated story of my life into something short and simple..all of this is the nicer version of the story too. Point being people are stupid and will freakout because of their own issues and for that I'd rather love my records than ever love anyone ever again... lol I wasn't so bitter and cynical until I started rehashing all of this |
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| Good [+1]Toggle ReplyLink» LiiLii replied on Thu Dec 7, 2006 @ 9:10am |
 Coolness: 60555 | Common Law is shit! At many places, it's not even reconnized! If someone dies, and as been living with the same person for the last 30 years, he his still Single! |
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| Good [+1]Toggle ReplyLink» evilkitkatbar replied on Thu Dec 7, 2006 @ 10:23am |
 Coolness: 77680 | Originally Posted By SCREWHEAD NO NEED FOR A PIECE OF PAPER DECLARING YOUR LOVE TO ANOTHER OFFICIAL. IF YOU NEED A PIECE OF PAPER TO PROVE YOU LOVE SOMEONE, THEN YOU DON'T REALLY LOVE THEM.
My opinion on the thing too...Other tahn having a cool party I dont see the point honestly. If the couple does break up (which in most likely cause they nearly all do lol) it complicates tsuff. If you want to stay with the same person all your life, you can even without the paper and the party. And I dont think that finding "true love" or "the one" is the best thing in life , theres so much more... Thx for your opinions this is interesting :) |
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| Good [+1]Toggle ReplyLink» Phoenix replied on Thu Dec 7, 2006 @ 10:56am |
 Coolness: 81640 | I think it's not just unfortunate but absolutely tragic that most of you seem to anticipate breakups before even getting involved in the relationship which, as some of you suggest, are inevitably predisposed to fail on bad terms causing post marital conflicts. It's as if you set yourselves up for failure before even making a genuine effort to work things out optimistically. I believe that if a person fears abandonment, lacks trust in their partner(s), doubts their ability to maintain a stable ongoing relationship, or lacks confidence in themself than they shouldn't be in a relationship let alone get married. Trust, honestly, and loyalty build the strongest relationship foundations while fear prevents any potential foundation from even being built initially. |
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| Good [+1]Toggle ReplyLink» moondancer replied on Thu Dec 7, 2006 @ 11:33am |
 Coolness: 92215 | I agree there's no point in getting married but I'd like to point out anyway that marriage didn't start as a way to make money, it started with religious rituals long before money existed. It's not a religious thing for many people anymore, it's more of a legal thing or a symbolic thing to show your love for eachother but it's certainly nothing new. Not long ago it was still taken very seriously, as a real vow and promise that had to absolutely be upheld. Of course the rest of us won't see much of a point to it, I think only someone religious would see a real reason for it and as far as I know it's the only reason it ever existed - 'it' being the actual 'ritual' of marriage and the need to have an actual initiation. |
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| Good [+1]Toggle ReplyLink» subfl0wer replied on Thu Dec 7, 2006 @ 12:06pm |
 Coolness: 73420 | Originally Posted By __PHOENIX__ I THINK IT'S NOT JUST UNFORTUNATE BUT ABSOLUTELY TRAGIC THAT MOST OF YOU SEEM TO ANTICIPATE BREAKUPS BEFORE EVEN GETTING INVOLVED IN THE RELATIONSHIP WHICH, AS SOME OF YOU SUGGEST, ARE INEVITABLY PREDISPOSED TO FAIL ON BAD TERMS CAUSING POST MARITAL CONFLICTS. IT'S AS IF YOU SET YOURSELVES UP FOR FAILURE BEFORE EVEN MAKING A GENUINE EFFORT TO WORK THINGS OUT OPTIMISTICALLY. I BELIEVE THAT IF A PERSON FEARS ABANDONMENT, LACKS TRUST IN THEIR PARTNER(S), DOUBTS THEIR ABILITY TO MAINTAIN A STABLE ONGOING RELATIONSHIP, OR LACKS CONFIDENCE IN THEMSELF THAN THEY SHOULDN'T BE IN A RELATIONSHIP LET ALONE GET MARRIED. TRUST, HONESTLY, AND LOYALTY BUILD THE STRONGEST RELATIONSHIP FOUNDATIONS WHILE FEAR PREVENTS ANY POTENTIAL FOUNDATION FROM EVEN BEING BUILT INITIALLY.
AMEN to that. I have had bad past experiences which caused a lot of probs with my current lover. I did not think this could turn into something good because in my past nothing turned out good. But an experience is an experience. Just gotta be positive and not over analyze. I have never been happier/more comfortable with anyone before. I do not want to marry unless we have kids. Married/not married - makes no different to me. Marriage doesnt scare me because I know what I want. I dont, and never will know what the future fully holds, but taking chances is what life is all about. If things dont work out, things dont work out thats all. Most people dont even wanna think about marriage because they are afraid of getting their heart broken. Ie. Screwhead - how come u believed in marriage before; then your gf dumped you and now u dont believe in it? It sucks for shit like that to happen, I know how it feels. |
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| Good [+1]Toggle ReplyLink» Niji replied on Thu Dec 7, 2006 @ 12:29pm |
 Coolness: 70165 | Originally Posted By __PHOENIX__ I THINK IT'S NOT JUST UNFORTUNATE BUT ABSOLUTELY TRAGIC THAT MOST OF YOU SEEM TO ANTICIPATE BREAKUPS BEFORE EVEN GETTING INVOLVED IN THE RELATIONSHIP WHICH, AS SOME OF YOU SUGGEST, ARE INEVITABLY PREDISPOSED TO FAIL ON BAD TERMS CAUSING POST MARITAL CONFLICTS. IT'S AS IF YOU SET YOURSELVES UP FOR FAILURE BEFORE EVEN MAKING A GENUINE EFFORT TO WORK THINGS OUT OPTIMISTICALLY. I BELIEVE THAT IF A PERSON FEARS ABANDONMENT, LACKS TRUST IN THEIR PARTNER(S), DOUBTS THEIR ABILITY TO MAINTAIN A STABLE ONGOING RELATIONSHIP, OR LACKS CONFIDENCE IN THEMSELF THAN THEY SHOULDN'T BE IN A RELATIONSHIP LET ALONE GET MARRIED. TRUST, HONESTLY, AND LOYALTY BUILD THE STRONGEST RELATIONSHIP FOUNDATIONS WHILE FEAR PREVENTS ANY POTENTIAL FOUNDATION FROM EVEN BEING BUILT INITIALLY.
I couldn't have put it in better words. |
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| Good [+1]Toggle ReplyLink» Phoenix replied on Thu Dec 7, 2006 @ 12:44pm |
| Coolness: 81640 | Is anyone here impathic? Can anyone here predict the future with absolute certainty?
Highly doubtful... Bad past experiences should (and must) be looked at as isolated social incidents each time they occur. Even if circumstances seem to develop a reoccuring pattern (positive or negative) we can never assume what the future has in store for us. Past events don't dictate the future. Even if you've commited an action involving the same, or even different variables nine hundred and ninty-nine times and got the same reaction(s) every time that doesn't necessarily predispose the outcome(s) of the thousandth experiment. Results can vary tremendously simply due to seemingly negligible variables like the timing or location in which they're conducted or sometimes even for reasons which can't be explained rationally or scientifically. The key is faith and confidence. Don't think you might success know you'll succeed |
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| Good [+1]Toggle ReplyLink» Dark_Angel_2 replied on Thu Dec 7, 2006 @ 3:16pm |
 Coolness: 69350 | i personally dont believe in marriage..i have 2 kids and still with the father. I do see what difference a piece of paper would do...were already taxed as if were married and im not really intersted in going into debt to have a party..ill do the honeymoon thing tho....and another reason im not getting married is cuz of my parents marriage..nasty divorce, custody bullshit etc.....so im a little hesitatnt...I see it as, he loves me, i love him and we dont need a 'paper' to make it 'legally official' they way i want to get married is have a spriitual binding cermony..thats way more special to me.And getting matching rigs tattooed. |
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| Good [+1]Toggle ReplyLink» Holly_Golightly replied on Thu Dec 7, 2006 @ 3:27pm |
 Coolness: 158685 | i think it's a very personal choice in someone's life since it mean different things for everybody...
your culture, family history, values, religion,(ect..) there's so many reason for getting married... also some people on the planet don't even have a fucking choice to marry who they want?!!! i don't want to explain my personal choices on a public board but i'm very happy...and that's the most important in love...married or not! :) |
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| Good [+1]Toggle ReplyLink» subfl0wer replied on Thu Dec 7, 2006 @ 3:29pm |
| Coolness: 73420 | agreed! |
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| Good [+1]Toggle ReplyLink» Phoenix replied on Thu Dec 7, 2006 @ 3:29pm |
| Coolness: 81640 | Ring tattoos... that's actually a genius concept and doesn't cost 6 weeks' salery! |
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| Good [+1]Toggle ReplyLink» Holly_Golightly replied on Thu Dec 7, 2006 @ 3:33pm |
| Coolness: 158685 | hahaha ring tatoos! rock n roll! |
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| Good [+1]Toggle ReplyLink» MURDOCK_ROCK replied on Thu Dec 7, 2006 @ 3:45pm |
 Coolness: 83825 | um... i think she said "rig tattoos" |
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| Good [+1]Toggle ReplyLink» poypoypoy replied on Thu Dec 7, 2006 @ 3:46pm |
 Coolness: 48670 | je vais me marier l'été prochain :P |
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| Good [+1]Toggle ReplyLink» subfl0wer replied on Thu Dec 7, 2006 @ 3:53pm |
| Coolness: 73420 | congrats again jacynthe!! |
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| Good [+1]Toggle ReplyLink» Shindy replied on Thu Dec 7, 2006 @ 5:01pm |
 Coolness: 171790 | My boyfriend and I told each other that if we ever get "Married", we would learn how and tatoo (the ring) on one another. (if it is possible to do so-- I don't kknow)
Letting the men I love "scar" my body for ever will have more signification for me then the official paper or the party. |
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| Good [+1]Toggle ReplyLink» MURDOCK_ROCK replied on Thu Dec 7, 2006 @ 5:27pm |
| Coolness: 83825 | tattoos can be easily removed now!!!
i know a chick who does scarification and branding though!! i think i want my name burnt into some sluts ass!!! yeah!!! that would rock!! |
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