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| Good [+1]Toggle ReplyLink» Kuzutetsu replied on Sat Apr 26, 2008 @ 12:44pm |
 Coolness: 133140 | Could I make a post here and ask public opinion
on something that only concern myself and that most of you probably d'ont give a fuck about and will probably laught at me and call me a loser or whatever... I guess it's pointless nway it'll probably end-up [trash-47] topic or no-replys at all... But maybe since I didnt made it really clear already of what I want to talk about ...ok I know I am making no sence at all...but actually it's because why would I write something if I think that ppl wouldnt give a fuck about and probably wouldn't even read it ? |
| Good [+1]Toggle ReplyLink» Skicks replied on Sat Apr 26, 2008 @ 12:46pm |
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| I'm feeling <3 right now.. | |
| Good [+1]Toggle ReplyLink» Deadfunk replied on Sat Apr 26, 2008 @ 12:51pm |
 Coolness: 153110 | ask you have nothing to loose. |
| I'm feeling hardcore right now.. | |
| Good [+1]Toggle ReplyLink» Screwhead replied on Sat Apr 26, 2008 @ 12:51pm |
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| I'm feeling like cheezing right now.. | |
| Good [+1]Toggle ReplyLink» Br34th3 replied on Sat Apr 26, 2008 @ 1:06pm |
 Coolness: 127870 | People would read and respond most likely depending on the subject, but you would have to filter through the myriad of retarded responses to get to the pertinent information you seek.. LIKE EVERY SINGLE OTHER THREAD ON THIS FORUM SINCE DAY ONE! :P |
| I'm feeling hr, br, fr, sr right now.. | |
| Good [+1]Toggle ReplyLink» Rakoon replied on Sat Apr 26, 2008 @ 1:16pm |
 Coolness: 175545 | Soundwave, your reply is retarded as aguy dressed like Bender dancing in a rave |
| I'm feeling gimme a broomstick ! right now.. | |
| Good [+1]Toggle ReplyLink» Kuzutetsu replied on Sat Apr 26, 2008 @ 1:16pm |
| Coolness: 133140 | ok well it's about solitude...
I just realised over the years and all the shit iv'e been true that most of the time I end up alone cutting all communication with the ppl that seemed to care about me to end up alone and overthinking too much on the negative aspects of my life. There was times where I talked and wrote a lot about it to others and it helped me but most of those d'ont communicate with me anymore and it's not like I feel that much sad about it. Because they knew me back there for what I was and how I feeled at that time and if my mind havent really changed years later then I guess I shouldnt talk over what was already been said. like ''démerde toi tout seul'' But all I know is that the more I stay alone and d'ont talk with anyone else it never gets better and It always get worse to a point that i'm so sick and tired of being alone that I go crazy and start to panic and it's at that point that I cannot stand to not be able to communicate with others because of my owen selfish and stubborn mind and that I star saying a lot of bullshit that maybe I shouldnt have said and that I wouldn't probably said if I would have talked about it earlier... |
| Good [+1]Toggle ReplyLink» Br34th3 replied on Sat Apr 26, 2008 @ 1:53pm |
| Coolness: 127870 | Most people don't want or simply can't take responsibility in sharing others most profound life experiences. Sometimes its a conscious act other times it isn't.. this usually has more to do with their self esteem and little to do with you as a person although it's not easy distinguishable without careful consideration. Its hard not to have higher expectations of your entourage especially when you have high expectations of yourself. When it comes down to your own well being, you must be resolved and take solace in who you are, once this is accomplished everything else falls into place. |
| I'm feeling hr, br, fr, sr right now.. | |
| Good [+1]Toggle ReplyLink» cvxn replied on Sat Apr 26, 2008 @ 2:25pm |
 Coolness: 178750 | heck, Kuzu, I do the same thing sometimes... :S |
| I'm feeling mating season right now.. | |
| Good [+1]Toggle ReplyLink» Br34th3 replied on Sat Apr 26, 2008 @ 2:41pm |
| Coolness: 127870 | same here. I try to put a positive twist on my solitude by undertaking hideously complex projects that in the longrun create a positive social entourage by default... ie music, events, art etc... |
| I'm feeling hr, br, fr, sr right now.. | |
| Good [+1]Toggle ReplyLink» Nuclear replied on Sat Apr 26, 2008 @ 3:07pm |
 Coolness: 2604090 | go out more then... or try to find a girl to keep you company for longer then a week! |
| I'm feeling whatever right now.. | |
| Good [+1]Toggle ReplyLink» JasonBeastly replied on Sun Apr 27, 2008 @ 5:40am |
 Coolness: 76815 | You may want to look into whether you are suffering from a borderline personality disorder, one of the typical symptoms is having great difficulty keeping your connections with people intact. It's apparently treatable and actually all the other advice is quite relevant... it's also an unusually common disorder, which makes me think that this diagnosis fails to really examine the individual.
It's also possible that you haven't yet found people who properly suit you. You have to think about the reasons why it's hard to stay in touch too, sometimes the reasons are quite logical. Look at what parts of the communication breakdown have to do with the other person and which are mostly your perceptions. I hope I'm not being too personal by suggesting all that... |
| I'm feeling it wriggle right now.. | |
| Good [+1]Toggle ReplyLink» Kuzutetsu replied on Sun Apr 27, 2008 @ 8:27am |
| Coolness: 133140 | Originally Posted By LUKEPERIL
You may want to look into whether you are suffering from a borderline personality disorder, one of the typical symptoms is having great difficulty keeping your connections with people intact. It's apparently treatable and actually all the other advice is quite relevant... it's also an unusually common disorder, which makes me think that this diagnosis fails to really examine the individual. It's also possible that you haven't yet found people who properly suit you. You have to think about the reasons why it's hard to stay in touch too, sometimes the reasons are quite logical. Look at what parts of the communication breakdown have to do with the other person and which are mostly your perceptions. I hope I'm not being too personal by suggesting all that... no,this is very helpfull for me actually; All this seems complicated...but I know it's because I d'ont try to really understand the logical reasons behind my uncomfortable being... I think I kinda start understanding why now; Most of the time i'm usually a very ''talkative'' person; But I often end up talking a lot about myself without listening carefully to what others have to say... And I often start sentences, verbaly or written without ever finishing them because I know that the person I am telling this to will probably have a bad reaction about it or the discussion will go into a ''hostile territory'' and I know it's very frustating for the others and i've been told that often... so this probably has something to do with the fact that I easily can get people angry at me :S But now I realize that pretty much all my oldest friends that still talk with me on an un-regular basis are pretty much similar to me for talking a lot about thereselves and are pretty much antisocial themselves in their own way...I knew a lot of ppl over the years who could't stand them ,even me; and yet we're still friends after all those years even tho We d'ont really talk that much but it's because they're often telling me the same things and I D'ont really wanna hear it again; kinda like I said before for myself. Let The Past Be The Past, and if you're gonna talk again about the same stuff you we're talking years ago then why would I wanna hear it again... I feel ashamed of telling ppl that actually I haven't really changed...nway I d'ont wanna write a book this morning lol but I think i'm starting to understand more some stuff that shouldn't be left aside or ignored... |
| Good [+1]Toggle ReplyLink» Agaguk replied on Sun Apr 27, 2008 @ 6:10pm |
 Coolness: 57510 | Hey, I read a book about a yogi who lived in a cave by himself for 40 years and was still able to reach happiness. I tend to isolate myself as well, but I'm pretty comfortable with it. I think you have to accept that some people will like you, and other wont. When you,re at peace with it, you can manage to be yourself in social situations without worrying about what others will think. I dont feel a strong connexion with a lot of people, and I dont think you need that many ppl in your life to be happy... Just remember one thing: you dont need to impress anyone!
But the real question remains: why do you push people who care about you away? What are you afraid of? Is it cause you dont like yourself? If so, figure out what it is you dont like about your behavior/personality and do your best to change it:) If you,re surrounded by other ppl with negative energy, I would start by getting rid of those... worked for me! Hey, at least you're aware this is an issue, thats the first step. |
| Good [+1]Toggle ReplyLink» JojoBizarre replied on Mon Apr 28, 2008 @ 9:22am |
 Coolness: 295080 | 4chan can be the answer you are looking for! |
| I'm feeling less than a month right now.. | |
| Good [+1]Toggle ReplyLink» cvxn replied on Mon Apr 28, 2008 @ 9:42am |
| Coolness: 178750 | 4chan sucks. I'm sorry, I don't like their sense of humour. I find they're too jaded. >__<
Kuzu, p-ê que tu peux aller voir tes vrais amis, pis faire de quoi pour te changer les idées... Tsé, rien d'hyper philosophique, ou de trop intense... Juste ché pas, prendre un café, voir un film, etc... Ça aide, pis ça évite de penser à des trucs trop négatifs :) Pis même si tu es down pendant que tu les vois, au moins tu les as vus, c'est déjà ça. Pis p-ê qu'ils peuvent t'aider aussi. Mais, faut d'abord que tu saches c'est quoi ton problème, pke si tu l'as pas spotté, ben tes amis vont pas savoir quoi faire pour t'aider :) Tk, bonne chance :) |
| I'm feeling mating season right now.. | |
| Good [+1]Toggle ReplyLink» spotless_mind replied on Mon Apr 28, 2008 @ 11:56am |
 Coolness: 37615 | it doesn't totally sound like anti-social, sounds more like loneliness. Anti-social is a vague term but means either you damage other people or you don't care about spending any time with others (therefore resistant to loneliness).
from your description [talking about yourself too much without listening as much as you talk / speaking about inappropriate things that turn into hostile confrontations] that sounds like low social intelligence (or being a drunkard/coke wanker! hehe). i'm no social genius myself :/ but it is definitely something that can be improved with some attention and motivation like any other form of intelligence. Often we tend to pick up a lot of the bad social habits of our parents (or whomever raised us) so take a look at them to see if you see any pattern. You need to be fully aware of what is going on before you can change something. You can't hit what you can't see! ;) part of a confounding factor, however, is that after prolonged loneliness, you can get into a depression. When you are depressed, that is when you "ruminate" or think negative thoughts in a cyclical fashion. it's hard when we are depressed to get out of it because you won't remember the good times you've had, since they are harder to access. That has to do with what is called "state dependent memory" which is an effect where we can recall information easier when we are in a similar "state" as when we encoded it. so when we are depressed, it is easier to remember negative memories and harder to remember/think about positive things. also, we tend to surround ourselves with similar things (depressing music/books/movies/clothes). So you need to make an effort and do some noticable changes to break out of the state (i.e. force yourself to go out more, clean your room, get some new clothes, get a haircut, contact any positive friends you have, whatever). And.... don't feel bad about seeking professional help. All of us have different physical/genetic situations too, and some people can really benefit with some cognitive therapy or even drugs (gasp!) ;) |
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