TIPS FOR EVALUATING SOMEONE'S USE OF DRUGS OR ALCOHOL

You are concerned that someone you care about might have a drug or
alcohol problem. You have tried to talk about it but you end up
arguing and getting nowhere.

We understand your frustration. It's hard to see someone you care
about doing things you don't feel good about - especially when they
don't think there is a problem. It can feel confusing and
overwhelming. Don't give up; there are ways to get through.

This often happens because you are trying to get others to see your
point of view - this can prevent others from being able to really
hear you. If you want to help, the first thing you will need to do is
to step back and not let your emotions get in the way of what you want to say.

Here are a few tips that might help:

1) Pick a time to talk to them when you are both calm and there are
no other pressures.

2) Admit that you are not an expert and that you don't know if there
is a problem or not. That is something that they have to decide for
himself or herself, or with a counselor.

3) Stick to the facts - what you observe. That is your basis for
concern. Don't exaggerate or use labels such as "alcoholic."

4) Share that you care about them. That you are willing to research
with them, and learn everything you can about what a problem looks
like. Not everyone who uses has a problem.

5) Work with them, instead of against them. It is not your roll to
scold, judge or order.

If the person gets angry or upset, stop the discussion for now. The
problem didn't develop in one day and it won't be resolved that quickly either.

For information on services available in the Clearwater area, call
Yellowhead Community Services at (250) 674-2600.