MAN'S MARIJUANA ADDICTION DEVASTATES WIDOW

Dear Annie: I'm a 67-year-old woman who has been deeply hurt. My
husband died seven years ago, and I suffered depression. My
psychiatrist told me to meet new people, so I did. I went to dinner
with a girlfriend in an upscale nightclub. A good-looking fellow asked
me to dance, and we clicked immediately. Over the next two years, we
travelled extensively, cooked together, went to the beach and had a
lot in common. My family embraced him and was so happy for me. He told
me he'd been addicted to alcohol and tobacco, but stopped using both
30 years ago.

Three weeks ago, he brought marijuana to my home and proceeded to
smoke. I was appalled and told him to never bring it into my house
again. He refused to quit and said if I want to see him, I'd have to
go to his place. We had an argument, and I haven't heard from him
since. I'm shocked the man I loved is an addict. How could he do this
after all our time together?

Hurt

Dear Hurt: There were probably signs during your two years together,
but people in love are prone to overlook red flags, especially if they
are unfamiliar with the markings. We don't doubt that this man enjoyed
your company, but his addiction comes first, and he isn't willing to
give it up for you. We know you're hurting, but please know you also
are lucky to have missed this train.